Bondage is all about using stuff you have lying around to tie your partner up or get restrained yourself when you’re a beginner. But, in the world of BDSM, you can’t only restrain (pun intended) to foreplay; you’ll have to take a dive into the shallow waters of bondage sex positions.

BDSM sex positions are all about spicing up your sex life. Tired of vanilla missionary? Try the Conquistador instead. Plus, the deeper you dive into the best BDSM positions, the more complex they get, with some delving into the Shibari/Rigger territory.

So, today, we’ll check out the best BDSM bondage positions, as well as some of the most important things to look out for before a bondage sex scene.

What To Look Out For Before a Bondage Sex Scene

We know that you’re excited to get straight into your first bondage sex position. But, at first, you’ll need to take note of the following:

Safety

Before you practice any kind of BDSM, from the most mild to the most extreme scenes, you have to take some precautions. For starters, especially when it comes to bondage, you’ll need a good pair of surgical shears that can cut through the most complex of ties.

On top of that, you must have a few safe words that will allow you to communicate with your partner throughout a scene. Go for something simple like red for stop and green for go ahead.

Communication

Speaking of communication, discussing both your and your partner’s boundaries before the start of a play is a must. You’ll also need to talk about your D/s dynamic, acknowledging who will be tied up and what their role will be.

Equipment

We already talked about having a pair of shears around, but that’s not all the equipment you’ll require. This is bondage, folks, and bondage includes ties, handcuffs, blindfolds; the whole shebang.

So, get a good pair of restraints and handcuffs that aren’t too tight on the skin. Also, if you go for DIY solutions, like belts, ties, and so on, you must ensure that they are loose enough so that the sub can free themselves in case of an emergency.

Aftercare

Aftercare is necessary after every scene rather than before it. Still, you’ll have to prepare for that as well since you might need to get some additional stuff, especially if you decide to add some impact play to the mix.

The Best Bondage Sex Positions to Spice Up Your Sex Life

We know that this is what you all came for. So, without further ado, we’ll take a look at the best BDSM sex positions you can try out as a beginner. 

Conquistador

The Conquistador is a variation of the classic missionary position, with the addition of wrist restraints.

How To Do The Conquistador

This one’s very simple (compared to the other ones we mention below). You’ll only need to bind the sub’s wrists – and ankles if they consent – to the bed frame. After that, it’s pretty much the same as the good old missionary position.

BDSM Gear You’ll Need For The Conquistador

• Wrist Restraints (Cuffs or Straps)
• Blindfold

Leap Frog

We’re taking this straight to the next level with the Leap Frog.  

How To Do The Leap Frog

Being a bondage variation of doggy style, this position requires the receiving partner to have their wrists tied up next to their ankles. This can be tiring for their neck, so consider adding a pillow below their chest to make the position more comfortable.

BDSM Gear You’ll Need For The Leap Frog

• Bondage Tape
• Blindfold 
• Ball Gag

Rider on Top

Going back to something a bit more vanilla, we’ve got the Rider on Top. 

How To Do The Rider on Top

This is commonly used by Switches (people who alternate between a Dom and a sub) and sees the penetrating partner being tied up. Their ankles are tied together, while their wrists are restrained against the bed frame, with the receiving partner having full control, cowgirl style!

BDSM Gear You’ll Need For The Rider on Top

• Cuffs/Bondage Tape
• Blindfold

Group Project

Continuing on with another beginner-friendly position, we’ve got the Group Project. Threesomes are fun for some, but bondage threesomes are certainly more exciting.

How To Do The Group Project

For the Group Project, you’ll need to tie the wrists of each of the two partners behind the other’s back. Once they’re locked in, you can either be passive or actively penetrate either partner.

BDSM Gear You’ll Need For The Group Project

• Cuffs or Bondage Tape
• Paddles or Floggers (if the two partners are subs)
• Ball Gags

Spread Eagle

Now, we’re getting into the real BDSM territory, introducing the Spread Eagle. 

How To Do The Spread Eagle

The Spread Eagle is a relatively simple sex position that requires the receiving partner to be tied up to the bed frame in an X position. Despite being pretty vanilla, it allows for full frontal access to the penetrating partner, which, in turn, requires a lot of trust from both parties.

BDSM Gear You’ll Need For The Spread Eagle

• Bondage Tape/Rope
• Blindfold

The Yogi

If you find the Spread Eagle way too comfortable, try out its extreme counterpart, the Yogi. 

How To Do The Yogi

As the receiving partner, you’ll need to lie down in bed and be pretty flexible. At the same time, the Dom will need to tie your ankles and wrists at the top corners of the bed. This does require a lot of flexibility from the sub, so make sure to stretch out beforehand.

BDSM Gear You’ll Need For The Yogi

• Bondage Tape/Rope
• Blindfold

Interrogation Chair

We think including a bondage foreplay position is pretty necessary, and there’s no better option than the Interrogation Chair. 

How To Do The Interrogation Chair

The sub is bound against a chair, with their ankles and wrists being tied up at each chair leg. This allows the Dom to receive oral or conduct a nice D/s roleplay scene.

BDSM Gear You’ll Need For The Interrogation Chair

• Bondage Tape
• Chair (pushed up against a wall)

Box Tie

Now, it’s time to get into the advanced ties. While you shouldn’t try these out early on in your BDSM journey, they’re great once you know what you’re doing. Introducing the Box Tie!

How To Do The Box Tie

The Box Tie is a staple of bondage, and it includes immobilizing the receiving partner by tying their hands behind their back. This is very complex, as it includes wrapping the rope around your partner’s chest and tying it to their hands and back.

BDSM Gear You’ll Need For The Box Tie

• Bondage Rope
• Blindfold (to take it to the next level)

Hogtie

We couldn’t forget about the Hogtie!

How To Do The Hogtie

This sex position isn’t the best for sexual penetration, but it can do wonders for foreplay and oral sex. The penetrating partner needs to tie up the receiving partner’s hands to their legs, with arms and elbows and thighs and ankles bound together.

BDSM Gear You’ll Need For The Hogtie

• O-Ring
• Bondage Rope

Frog Tie

There’s no better way to conclude the best bondage sex positions than with the classic Frog Tie.

How To Do The Frog Tie

This one requires a lot of skill from the Dom and even more patience and agility from the sub. You’ll need to start off with a Box Tie for the upper body but also bind the ankles and thighs together in a squat position.

BDSM Gear You’ll Need For The Frog Tie

• Bondage Rope
• Blindfold
• Thigh Cuffs

Bondage Done the Oddo Way

Now that you know some of the best BDSM sex positions, you’ll have to try a few of them out. But, once you get tired of using that old belt, you’ll have to secure some good BDSM gear. That’s where we come in!

At Oddo Leather, we offer premium bondage gear that can spice up your sex life. You can get yourself ball gags, blindfolds, or even one of our collections!