Dom and sub relationships are an integral part of everyone’s BDSM journey. After all, D/s is part of the BDSM moniker, so it’s only fitting that you want to learn about what these kinds of relationships are.

While we’ve recently covered the very basics of Dom/sub relationships, we only briefly mentioned the types of dom/sub relationships in the BDSM world. In turn, many of you might not know how to be a good dom and submissive in a dom/sub dynamic.

Therefore, today, we’ll talk all about the different BDSM dynamics, focusing on the different types of submissives and doms, as well as the relationships between them. Also, we’ll check out some of the essentials every D/s should have, especially when it comes to trust and communication.

Get Your Kink On – The Main Types of Dom/Sub Relationships

We’re not going to beat around the bush. There are way too many types of Dom/sub relationships to cover in one article. After all, BDSM is all about expressing yourself to the fullest, meaning that your kinky relationship might not fall under any specific category.

But, just so we’re on the page, we’ll check out some of the most common types of Dom/sub relationships.

Sexual D/s

To be in a sexual D/s relationship simply means that your kink remains only in bed. D/s lovers don’t go for exotic acts; instead, the relationship is only a matter of power play during sexual acts. But, as is expected, several other relationships take things outside the bedroom.

24/7 D/s

Yes, we just went from one side of the spectrum to the opposite one. Many folks that partake in BDSM enjoy engaging in a Dom/sub relationship that’s permanent unless there’s any objection at any point from either party. After all, D/s relationships are all about mutual consent and understanding.

Master and Servant

One D/s relationship that’s been covered all over the media is the master and servant one. This pairing can get pretty exotic, as it doesn’t only focus on pleasure. Instead, the sub is meant to serve the Dom in every part of their lives.

Daddy Dom/Little Girl

In this relationship, Dom acts as a caregiver to the sub, similar to how a dad treats his little girl. The sub can take on several different roles, from a brat to a princess, which comes with various “challenges” for the Dom.

Of course, there are some other relationships, like those of the rigger and their rope bunny, which can be categorized under the ones we mentioned above. But, instead of just focusing on the relationships, let’s tackle a big issue that those new to BDSM usually experience.

With Great Power Comes Great Pleasure – How To Be A Good Dom

Let’s face it; as BDSM got more widespread, many saw it as a chance to become abusive and seek sexual pleasure by hurting their partners. But this isn’t BDSM; this is plain abuse.

You see, to be a good Dom, one needs to understand their purpose in the relationship. Sure, they’re technically the ones whose needs are served at all times. But, in reality, good types of Doms have one quality that makes them stand out: control. 

They control everything in the relationship so that the sub feels safe and trusts them with their body and emotions. In fact, we’d go as far as to say that subs are the ones that experience the most pleasure in these relationships just by relinquishing control.

Serve Your Master – How To Be A Good Submissive

Let’s get straight to the point. To be a good submissive, one must ensure the Dom’s job is effortless. Of course, this is pretty challenging for a sub, as they’ll have to fully trust their partner and express themselves as clearly as possible.

This, however, doesn’t mean that they should set and enforce limits. Just because subs relinquish their power to their Dom doesn’t mean that the Dom can do whatever they want with the little sub.

Dom/Sub Relationship Dynamics — A Mix Of Trust and Communication

Regardless of what Dom/sub relationship dynamics you’re into, one thing’s for sure. Trust and communication are a must. Without these, the relationship turns from a pleasure-seeking adventure to an abusive nightmare on a whim.

In turn, regardless of what your role is, you must always communicate with your partner before, during, and after each act. And don’t forget about those aftercare cuddles. Of course, if you want to take your D/s bondage relationship to the next level, you’ll need to invest in some premium quality toys. That’s exactly what we do!

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