Whenever you hear your friends talking about trying something new in bed, the answers are usually pretty vanilla. They’ll often test out a new position or add in some hair-pulling. Or maybe even a little spanking. These right here, folks, are light BDSM ideas.

Despite having the BDSM moniker, light BDSM is a vanilla version of it that’s just enough to spice up your sex life. For example, soft bondage will include some wrist or ankle restraints, that’s it. Likewise, soft BDSM practices are usually limited to spanking or other less hands-on ideas. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

In fact, we’re happy to see more and more people trying out light BDSM. Hence why, we decided to give 15 of our best soft BDSM tips and ideas that you can try out in the bedroom tonight. But before that, let’s have a look at what light BDSM entails and what you’ll need to know before partaking in a scene.

What Is Light BDSM

For starters, there’s a big difference between full-blown and light BDSM. Many kinky BDSM scenes will require partners to sign contracts and list out all the activities that will be done beforehand. Others live a full-on BDSM lifestyle, where they submit or dominate their partner in everyday life. That’s not the case with soft BDSM.

In fact, you might even be partaking in some of it without even knowing it. Practices like hair-pulling, spanking, choking, or any other “out-of-the-ordinary” activities are all part of the wide spectrum we know as BDSM.

But it goes deeper than that. Soft bondage, for example, can also include handcuffs. In contrast, Rigger BDSM is considered a more exotic bondage play.

We know this might be a lot to take in, but don’t worry. We have laid out some prerequisites you’ll need to account for before a soft sex bondage scene.

The Prerequisites For a Light BDSM Scene

In reality, there aren’t too many prerequisites you’ll need to know. This can all be dumbed down to speaking with your partner about your wants, establishing trust, and having a couple of tools to make things a little more intense.

Desires and Limits

So, to go more in-depth set out your wants and your no-gos. For example, you might not enjoy impact play, whether you’re the dominant or the submissive partner. But you might be really into some verbal BDSM. Either way, be as transparent as possible with all this and respect your partner’s choices as well. Find the middle ground and get ready for an incredible scene!

Safe Words

Before the scene, of course, you need to set some safe words. This will help you communicate throughout the play, letting each other know when to slow down or when to completely stop. The easiest one to do is the traffic light method (yellow for slow down, red to stop, green to continue). 

Make sure not to set a safe word as yes or no. These can be instinctively said during a scene despite not being what you actually want to happen.

Pervertables

What on earth is a pervertable? Well, these are all the household things you have that can be used in soft BDSM scenes. Wooden spoons? Perfect for spanking! Neck ties? Saves you some cash you’d spend on blindfolds and restraints. Be creative with them!

15 Light BDSM Things To Try Tonight

Well, now you should be ready to bring BDSM into the bedroom. We’ve listed out a bunch of different BDSM ideas for you, and we’ve categorized them accordingly!

Light Impact Play

Impact play can be a thrilling part of light BDSM. It's about experimenting with physical sensations but in a way that's safe and consensual.

1. Spanking: Start with gentle spanking, using your hand or a soft instrument like a leather paddle. It's about the sensation and sound more than pain.

2. Slapping: This can be a little more intense. Gentle face slapping can be stimulating, but always start light and communicate throughout.

3. Flogging: This one’s kind of too exotic for beginners, but we still consider it a part of soft impact play. Use a soft flogger with many tails. It provides a thudding sensation that can be very arousing without being too intense.

Light Bondage

Bondage can be about restricting movement in a playful way. It's a symbolic act of trust and surrender.

4. Blindfolding: Blindfolding heightens other senses, making every touch more intense and unpredictable, thus adding excitement. It's a simple way to explore trust and anticipation in a controlled setting.

5. Restraining: Use soft restraints like silk ties or padded cuffs to bind wrists or ankles lightly.

6. Handcuffs: If you're ready, introduce handcuffs, but ensure they're not too tight and are safe to remove quickly.

Light D/s Scene

Dominant/submissive play is about power dynamics, exploring control in a fun and consensual manner.

7. Role Play: D/s role-playing involves adopting specific characters or scenarios, allowing partners to explore different dynamics and fantasies in a safe environment. It's an excellent way to add creativity and deepen the connection through playful scenarios.

8. Worship Play: Worship play focuses on adoring and serving one partner, enhancing the feeling of devotion and appreciation in the relationship. This can involve specific activities like foot worship or verbal adoration, deepening the emotional and physical connection.

9. Switch Roles: Alternate between dominant and submissive roles to experience both sides of power play.

Sensation Play

This is all about exploring different physical sensations on the skin.

10. Biting: Gently biting or nibbling can be a highly arousing form of sensation play.

11. Temperature Play: Use ice cubes or warm wax (ensure it's safe for skin) to provide contrasting sensations.

12. Choking: This is more advanced and should be approached with caution. Light, consensual choking can be exhilarating, but safety is paramount.

Vocal Play

Using your voice in BDSM can be incredibly powerful.

13. Dirty Talk: Verbalizing desires and actions in a descriptive and explicit way can greatly intensify the experience and strengthen communication between partners. It's a powerful tool to express fantasies and desires, making the experience more engaging and fulfilling.

14. Power Play: Using voice to assert dominance or submission can significantly enhance the dynamic of the scene, adding an auditory element to the physical play. Commands and responses during play can deepen the sense of control and surrender.

15. Sir/Madam: Addressing each other with titles can reinforce roles and add to the fantasy.

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